We sat down with Split Member Tamar to learn about her experience in the Cofertility Split Program. From navigating the decision to freeze her eggs to being matched with an intended parent, Tamar shares an honest review of what the process was really like, reflects on what surprised her most, and explains why she’d recommend the Split Program to others considering egg freezing or exploring their fertility options.
Can you tell us a little bit about yourself?
My name is Tamar. I live in the Boston area. I work as a career advisor for graduate students, run a private coaching practice, and I’m also finishing my last semester of graduate school. I spend a lot of my life helping other people think through big decisions about their futures, so becoming a Cofertility Split Member felt like a natural extension of that mindset. I reached a point where I wanted to be more intentional about my own future, particularly around fertility, while still leaving myself flexibility and choice. The Split Program gave me a way to take care of myself now while also helping someone else build their family, which really resonated with me.
What first led you to explore freezing your eggs?
Turning 30 prompted me to slow down and think more intentionally about my future. I did not have all the answers, and I was not certain what I wanted long term, but I knew I wanted to be thoughtful and proactive rather than reactive. I was not ready to make big life decisions, yet I did want to take steps that would support whatever path I chose later on. Freezing my eggs felt like a way to give myself more time, flexibility, and peace of mind, without locking myself into a future I was not ready to define.
How did you first learn about the Split Program?
I had seen a few people I knew share their egg freezing experiences on Instagram, and I also remembered learning years ago that egg donation was an option. Around the same time, a close friend of mine who works as a fertility nurse mentioned that there were programs where you could donate your eggs and freeze your own at the same time.
That conversation really sparked my interest. I started researching different organizations, and Cofertility kept coming up again and again. As I learned more, the experience felt thoughtful and aligned with my values. Nothing felt rushed or transactional, and helping another family at the same time made me feel much more comfortable moving forward with freezing my eggs.
Why did Cofertility’s Split Program feel right for you?
From the beginning, Cofertility felt aligned with my values. It was founded by women, and that representation mattered to me. There was something very relatable about the organization. It felt like a group of women who genuinely believe in agency, choice, and having control over our bodies and our futures.
Every step of the experience felt thoughtful and human. I always felt informed and supported, with a clear understanding of each step before moving forward. There were frequent check-ins, helpful resources, and real opportunities to pause, ask questions, and reflect. Cofertility did not just say they were supportive. They consistently showed it.
How did your family and friends respond to your decision to freeze and donate your eggs with Cofertility?
My parents were incredibly supportive from the beginning. They helped me gather family medical history and were fully on board with my decision.
I chose to share with a smaller circle at first, partly because of stigma and partly because I wondered if things might change along the way. When I did start talking about it more broadly, people were supportive. A few people said they couldn’t see themselves making the same choice, which I understood. For me, it ultimately came down to trust, autonomy, and love. I saw donating my eggs as an act of service, and as long as a child is raised in a caring and supportive environment, I felt comfortable and confident in that decision.
What ultimately motivated you to move forward with donating your eggs through the Split Program?
Being able to freeze my eggs for free through the Split Program made egg freezing financially accessible to me. At the same time, my deeper motivation was about creating more love in the world.
I am surrounded by people who would make incredible parents, and I believe strongly in intentional parenthood. For people who have had to work hard to build their families, that intention carries so much meaning. Being able to support someone on that path while also freezing my own eggs felt really
meaningful.
“I’m really glad I chose the Split Program instead of freezing my eggs on my own. I started out doing this for myself, but over time that perspective shifted. It ended up feeling like I froze my eggs so I could also do this for the intended parent. I have so much respect for people who choose this path and for the persistence it takes to keep going, especially when building a family has not been easy.”
– Tamar, Split Member
What was the Split Member application process like?
It was surprisingly emotional! Gathering family medical history made me realize how privileged I am to have access to that information. Working on my application was also more reflective than I expected. It prompted me to think deeply about my upbringing, my values, and what I hope for the future. Overall, the experience felt empowering, and the sense of agency was exciting.
Can you tell us more about your experience matching with an intended parent?
From the very first conversation, everything felt easy. We connected immediately, and the energy felt right. We first met over Zoom and later decided to meet in person. As we got to know each other, we kept discovering unexpected overlaps in our lives, which made everything feel almost serendipitous. The connection felt intuitive from the start, and we naturally understood each other. It was a really special experience, and we connected through shared values, trust, and alignment.
What was your egg freezing cycle, retrieval, and recovery like?
Leading up to the retrieval, I felt mostly normal. I experienced some bloating, but nothing extreme. Recovery was smooth, and I was really glad I gave myself the time and space to rest. I decided to take some time off of work, but I don’t think it was a necessity.
I really felt supported by my Member Advocate and the Cofertility team throughout the entire experience. Knowing I had someone looking out for me and that I was not navigating this process alone made a huge difference in how manageable everything felt.
How does it feel knowing you have eggs frozen for your future?
Honestly, it brings a huge sense of relief. There is a real feeling of freedom in knowing I have taken something important off my plate. I can focus on my life right now without that constant pressure in the background.
What surprised me most is how meaningful the Split Program made the experience. I initially pursued egg freezing for myself, but now it feels like I froze my eggs so I could also do something meaningful for someone else. That shift in perspective has been incredibly powerful.
Would you recommend Cofertility and the Split Program to others?
One thousand percent.
Cofertility made what could have been a very overwhelming process feel really grounded and manageable. I felt supported, informed, and respected at every step. The team truly understands this process because they have lived it themselves, and that empathy comes through in everything they do.
It feels like a community of people who genuinely believe in expanding possibilities for women, for families, and for the future.
What would you want other potential Split Members to know?
Freezing your eggs is so much less scary than you might think. Once it is done, there is a real sense of calm, like you can finally breathe and focus on the parts of your life that matter to you right now. I would encourage them to explore their options. Learn about your body and your fertility. Having that information alone is incredibly empowering.
We are not taught enough about reproductive health, and once you start talking about it openly, you realize how many people around you have experienced fertility challenges. Normalizing these conversations helps people make more informed and confident decisions.
At the end of the day, this is about agency, autonomy, and love. That is something worth investing in.
If you are curious about freezing your eggs for free by donating half of the eggs retrieved to another family who cannot otherwise conceive, now is a great time to learn more about Cofertility’s Split Program. Click here to see if you pre-qualify and start exploring your options today.
